6 Signs To Confirm Someone Is Your Soulmate

Having been married to my soulmate since 2018, I realized that soulmate relationships aren’t for a perfect or fairytale-like story. But there’s something ‘intuitively special’ about it that makes it different from non-soulmate connections, and you will only know what sets it apart once you meet yours.

Whether you are here because you’re in love or you met someone for the first time and felt as if you’ve already known each other for a long time, the signs I included here apply to all soulmate types. Yes, you can have various kinds of soulmates, and it is also possible to meet more than one in a lifetime. A soulmate can be a close friend, spouse, spiritual partner, or any other important relationship.

To date, I have two known soulmates — my husband and my college best friend. When I met my best friend, ‘W’, in 2006, the first thing I thought was, “Is he the one?” Of course, that’s how a naive teenage girl would think when she met a guy for the first time, and felt an instant and familiar connection as if they’d known each other for a long time. When we evolved into best friends, I got curious about soulmates, because if W was the one, why was it that our friendship never grew into something romantic? Eventually, I learned that a soulmate isn’t limited to romantic relationships or by the idea of one true love.

What Is A Soulmate

A soulmate is someone you have a rare kind of strong and deep connection with that only the soul can feel. A connection that creates a substantial compatibility, chemistry, and harmony to help you heal, grow, and become a better person through simple things you share or do together. 

While there are strong and healthy relationships we can build with others, a soulmate relationship is ‘intuitively unique’. It’s not the typical special connection we share with other close friends or loved ones. When a friend asked me how I knew that ‘W’ was one of my soulmates, all I managed to say was: “I just know. And my soul was sure.”

A soulmate relationship is beyond physical or psychological encounter. It is an experience of the soul. An experience that is difficult to put into words, but the soul intuitively knows. It is important, however, to also mention here that these seemingly flavorful adjectives are just icing on the cake. If you cut out a slice, you will see that the cake is like any other — made of flour, butter, sugar, and eggs. Soulmate connections also go through challenges and have their own imperfections. It also needs constant love, respect, and trust to thrive.

You cannot expect everything to be easy and automatic just because you experienced all the signs with someone. All healthy relationships are built through conscious efforts and mutual respect, and soulmates are no exception.

6 Signs Someone Is Your Soulmate

As I’ve mentioned, meeting a soulmate doesn’t always go fairytale-like. Unlike what I felt with my best friend, meeting my husband for the first time didn’t come with rainbows and butterflies. But what made me think he was the one was the familiar peace and ease whenever I talked to him. There was no ‘aha’ moment, only a definite sense of feeling that I’m home. 

I know it’s hard to quickly assume that someone is our soulmate because we don’t want to get hurt in the end. It also went quite confusing for me at first because my mind didn’t want to accept what my soul was saying about my husband to avoid future heartbreak.

We want some proof that will support our hunches or signs that will confirm that someone is a soulmate. As an intuitive, what makes a true soulmate different from other special connections is the intensity of feelings and connection. You may experience the subtle signs with others, but the strength isn’t as strong as with your soulmate. And when you are still in doubt after ticking all the signs, your last resort is to ask your soul, it always speaks of your truth. 

Here are 6 signs to know if someone is your soulmate.

1. There is a strong instant connection and familiarity in your first meeting

I felt this sign with my best friend and my husband, and had it only with them. Sometimes, we meet new faces but only with mere familiarity. A clear soulmate sign is when there’s a strong instant connection and familiarity in your first meeting, as if you’ve already met in the past.

Soulmates recognize each other on first meeting because they have been together in past lives. The familiarity and connection had been established a long time ago, and meeting again in the present lifetime can feel like deja vu. You can confirm your past connection by asking your soulmate whether he/she felt the same when your eyes met.

I did this with my best friend. A few weeks after our first day in college, W and I effortlessly became really close to a point where I didn’t mind what he would think of me when I told him I thought we’d already been really close friends somewhere in the past. And surprisingly, his answer went like, “Yeah, on the first day of class, I thought I’d met you somewhere in the past.”

At that moment, I  knew right there and then that we were soulmates. 

2. You experience a lot of synchronicities

On our first in-person date (we started getting along on Facebook), my husband and I were both wearing gray t-shirts of the same shade! We even made fun of it and teased each other that we were clearly each other’s destiny. 😂 What a coincidence, right? But for both of us who don’t believe in coincidences, we both knew it was a confirmation from the universe that there was a high possibility that we were soulmates.

Synchronicity with your soulmate doesn’t always have to be in the form of wearing the same color or thinking of the same food you want to eat (but this can definitely happen, too). It can also be an answer to a question you didn’t ask anyone or a confirmation to a sign you silently asked from the universe.

For example, you are deciding on an important matter when your soulmate suddenly mentions something about it, even if you didn’t tell anyone about it. This happened to us recently when I was thinking of a protagonist’s name in a story I’ve been working on. I specifically said in my mind I wanted to use a name I crafted before that I thought was really creative, but I couldn’t think of anything. The following day, my husband blurted out of nowhere a ‘name’ (which I cannot reveal yet) I gave to a person a few years ago and said, “That name was one of the best you came up with, your most creative one, I’d say!” From that moment, I knew what I needed to do next — to sit on my story and update the manuscript, and use the name.

A lot of synchronicities happen in a soulmate relationship because it is part of its unique nature — alignment. Your soulmate often serves as a guide and support to direct you to the direction you are destined to choose.

3. There is a strong chemistry and dynamics despite personal differences

There is no perfect relationship, but what makes a soulmate relationship exceptional is the ability of two people to function in unique harmony and power. In a soul-to-soul partnership, 1 + 1 is not equal to 2, but 3. The flow of teamwork is more fluid because the souls know each other for a long time. Their plans and actions usually fall into the right places because they balance each other.

When we were still in a long-distance relationship, my husband and I went through a lot of difficult times, but what glued us together was our extraordinary dynamic and a connection as if we could accurately read each other’s minds and feel each other’s feelings.

The chemistry and dynamics you have with a soulmate is one of a kind, despite having personal differences. Your beliefs and personalities may not go hand in hand all the time, but they can beautifully complement and help each other become better individuals.

4. You are secure that your relationship is lifelong despite the distance or lack of communication

Most relationships (romantic or friendship) that we build with others are season-based. Friends who became our friends because of common interests in a particular season may disappear once priorities and mindset change as we encounter more experiences in life. In a soulmate connection, the relationship is not limited to common interests or seasons, because it is not anchored to the physical world, but to the other side, where souls really belong.

My best friend and I have shared lots of ups, downs, and changes through the seasons, but being there for each other, physically or in spirit, has been our friendship’s default. And even though we are now living thousands of miles apart and already have our own families to prioritize, the quality of our friendship stays intact.

Like any other healthy relationship, soulmate relationships are anchored in trust and security. Distance or changes through time aren’t threats because true soulmate ties will never be completely disconnected.

5. There is a balanced receiving and giving without demanding

A balanced receiving and giving in relationships happens when two people have a deep mental and emotional understanding of one another. With soulmates, understanding each other feels more ‘automatic’ because they can often feel or read each other’s energy even without saying a word. 

Soulmates don’t demand things from each other that might put each other in a stressful situation. There is no question of who gives more and who takes more because when one soul is happy, the other one receives that joy, too.

Personally, this is my favorite soulmate sign because when my connection with others is balanced, I grow more in love, trust, and respect towards myself and others. I become better at treating myself and handling things that don’t go in my favor. This sign is present with both of my two soulmates. They’re differently manifested, but the core of it is definitely there and enriching our souls in ways we need to learn and grow.

6. Both of you are comfortable in silence

Verbal communication is essential to all relationships, but what’s special about soulmates is that their bond can thrive in long silence. You can be comfortable together without meaty conversations, and breaking the ice is not always necessary. There’s no awkwardness or feeling that you’re obligated to keep one another entertained.Have you experienced hosting a party with close friends and worrying they might find the environment you prepared for them too boring or not entertaining? With your soulmate, you will never get uneasy or have to worry that he/she might be uncomfortable, because you are each other’s safe place. You can co-exist without doing or saying too much, and you love the peace and rest you can create for each other.

There are many other signs to confirm if someone is your soulmate. The points I gave above, however, are exclusive and talk more about soul connection than emotional or social attachment (which is common in non-soulmate ties).

The purpose of soulmate relationships is not about having a happily ever after story (which I thought it was in my teenage years). We meet our soulmates to amplify self-awareness, inner growth, and maturity, and to experience joy, peace, contentment, forgiveness, and unconditional love in greater heights.

A soulmate is the strongest reflector of who we are, exposes the beauty and demons in us, and shares the necessary lessons we need to learn in this current lifetime.

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