I had my first serious curiosity to know about my soulmate in 2006 when I met my best friend, ‘W’. There was an instant connection when our eyes met as if I’d known him for a long time. And what could you expect from a teenage girl who felt such a sensation toward a guy but a dreamy wondering whether he was the one.

At first, I found it unusual because we never had a romantic attraction toward each other. But I realized later on that a soulmate is not always about romantic love. But how did I know that W is my soulmate? One of the early signs I had was when I asked him if he remembered the day we first met.

He said, “Yeah, on the first day of college. I thought I’d met you somewhere in the past.”

I knew right there and then that W is my soulmate, or better to say, one of my soulmates.

A Soulmate Is Not Boxed In The Idea Of One True Love

A soulmate is not limited to romantic relationships. There are different types of soulmates that we could meet in a lifetime. They could be your best friend, spouse, or spiritual partner. I met another soulmate a few years after I met W and she turned out to be my female best friend.  And another years later my husband came into my life.

Yes, we can meet more than one soulmate in a lifetime. It is quite tricky and confusing to know who our soulmates are from thousands of people but if we know the signs that are exclusively experienced with a soulmate, the quest would be much easier.

What is a soulmate, then?

A soulmate is someone with whom you have a rare kind of strong and deep connection spiritually, emotionally, and mentally. This connection creates a substantial compatibility, chemistry, and harmony that positively impacts your inner growth and transformation. Simply put, having a soulmate relationship with someone makes you a better person in various and subtle ways.

While there are other strong and healthy relationships that we can build with others, a soulmate relationship always feels unique and rare. If we try to describe exactly how it feels when we meet our soulmate, our initial response would probably be, “Hmmm… it’s pretty difficult to put them into words…” because it really is.

A soulmate relationship is difficult to explain using our heads because it is beyond physical or psychological experience. It is an experience of the soul. However, even if it is hard to verbalize, our souls would intuitively know who our soulmates are.

6 Signs To Know If Someone Is Your Soulmate

Sometimes, even if we feel a jolt of inkling feeling that someone is our soulmate, we still don’t want to arrive at a conclusion. You may still want to check and know if someone is your soulmate and get confirmation from the universe that your instinct is right.

1. There is a strong instant feeling of connection and familiarity on your first meeting

I felt this sign with all of my soulmates (three persons to date) and have it only with them. Meeting new people for the first time is not a strange experience but when you have a strong instant feeling of connection and familiarity as if you’ve met in the past, you can take it as a strong early clue that a person is your soulmate.

Soulmates recognize each other as they have been together in their previous lives. The familiarity and connection had been established a long time ago and meeting again in a new lifetime feels like deja vu. You can confirm this by asking your soulmate whether he/she felt the same.

To know if someone is your soulmate, use your intuition or gut feeling. The mind or logical thinking will not tell you who your soulmate is. Your soul does. 

2. You experience a lot of synchronicities with your soulmate

On our first date, my husband and I were both wearing gray t-shirts which made us laugh because we did not talk about it. (We met and got to know online before we finally went on a date.) What a coincidence, right? But for us who do not believe in coincidences, we both knew that it was a confirmation from the universe that we could be the one for each other.

Photo of my husband and i wearing gray t-shirts on our first date. It was a sign that help us know if we are soulmate.
Wearing gray T-shirts on our first date.

Synchronicities with your soulmate do not always appear in form of wearing the same color or thinking of the same food that you want to eat (but this does happen a lot of times with us). They could also come as a confirmation to the signs that you ask for. For example, you are deciding about an important matter when your soulmate suddenly mentions a subject related to your situation even if you did not ask for it.

A lot of synchronicities happen in a soulmate relationship because it is part of their unique nature — alignment. Soulmates are aligned and give signals to one another leading them to do or think similar things that complement each other.

3. There is a strong chemistry and dynamics despite having personal differences

There is no perfect relationship but what makes a soulmate relationship exceptional is the ability of two people to function in great harmony and efficiency. In a soul-to-soul partnership, 1 + 1 is not equal to 2, but 3. The flow of your teamwork is smoother because the souls know each other well. It also amplifies the workforce especially when executing a plan that will contribute more joy, meaning, and wellness to the relationship. Your plans and steps are guided because you balance each other.

Before my husband and I got married, I noticed a strong dynamic and easy connection between us despite the distance. We adjusted to one another’s differences and similarities with less effort because it seemed as if our minds and souls were talking telepathically.

4. You are secure that the relationship is lifelong even if you are miles apart or not communicating regularly

A healthy relationship grows in trust and security. Distance is not a source of threat that might put end to the relationship because soul-based ties don’t get disconnected.

Most relationships (romantic or friendship) that we build with others are season-based. Our high school friends with whom we shared common links in the past may disappear after graduation. In soulmate friendship, the relationship is not limited to common interests. It feels connected in all ways.

W and I have been best friends for two decades and have shared a lot of ups and downs. We support each other in any way we can and we could not imagine any instance that can put our friendship to an end. Today, we are living thousands of miles away but there is assurance in our hearts that our friendship is always alive even if we don’t communicate often.

5. Both of you share a balanced receiving and giving without demanding

A balanced receiving and giving in a relationship happens when two people have a deep mental and emotional understanding of one another. While clear and strong communication is key to any healthy relationship, a soulmate relationship feels more automatic and needs less effort. You can feel and read each other’s minds and behavior in a special way. There are also no demands that might put each other in a stressful situation. 

Both persons in a soulmate relationship do not take advantage of each other. There is no question of who gives more and who takes more. This is my favorite among the six signs of a soulmate relationship because it is through balanced giving and receiving that I learn and grow in love, trust, and respect towards myself and my soulmate. This sign is present in all of my three soulmate relationships.

6. Both of you are comfortable in silence

Verbal communication is essential to any type of relationship, however, soulmates can thrive in silence. They are comfortable spending time together and not exchanging conversations. You do not find breaking the ice necessary because there is no awkwardness in silence. Sometimes, conversations are not needed to bridge the gap between the two of you. There is a sense of peace and comfort in silence because both of your souls always communicate.

It Is Important To Know Your Soulmate To Grow In Spirit

In my younger years, to know if someone is my soulmate was an exciting subject because I thought meeting one would complete me. However, I learned meeting our soulmate is not limited to romantic love. It’s not even about the love that we used to see in movies.

The purpose of a soulmate relationship is not about a happily ever after thing (which I thought it was as a teenager). We need to come across our soulmates to amplify self-awareness, inner growth and maturity, and to experience joy, peace, contentment, forgiveness, and unconditional love in greater heights.

A soulmate is the strongest reflector of who we are, exposes the beauty and demon in us, and shares the necessary lessons that we need to learn in our current lifetime.

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